I am playing a 4 team doubles game. 1 team gets knocked out around round 50. My teammate goes completely AWOL around round 150 and is never seen on CC again. Team 3 is out deploying the other 2 combined. I (team 2) start working with the other team (team 1) to slow down team 3. They do not like this and think I am manipulating the game. Eventually one of team 3's members suicides into me. I survive but he is eliminated. As I build back up team 1 loses one its members leaving the game with just 3 of us. Over the next 50 rounds I spend most of my time in last place but trying to work with the second place team to control the team in first which has mostly been team 3. Team 3 is constantly complaining that I am "manipulating the game". Not because I am working with team 1 but because I am making some territorial suggestions to team 1. As an example: suggesting team 1 attack from the south so I can attack from the north. All diplomacy being posted in chat. Eventually team 3 decides that he has had enough and does not want me to win so he also suicides against me, just as his partner had done.
I have 2 basic questions:
1. is it inappropriate to discuss strategy when doing diplomacy with another team?
2. is it bad behavior, cheating, or ok to suicide?