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cawck mongler wrote:Your only option is to quit and become an anti-American Nazi that plays risk.
static_ice wrote:this kid on my tennis team was 18 and his parents let him drink and store his own beer in his fridge... when the coach came this one time his parents took out his beer and served it to the coach!
static_ice wrote:this kid on my tennis team was 18 and his parents let him drink and store his own beer in his fridge... when the coach came this one time his parents took out his beer and served it to the coach!
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AtomicSlug wrote:Kids are gonna do what they want. In fact, the more you tell them NOT to do something, in their teens they will do the opposite, just to defy you as a parent.
Ask them not to drive if they get drunk and not to get into a car with someone else that is driving drunk. Offer to pick them up from the party. And lastly, set and enforce a house rule: no alcohol or drugs allowed in the house.
Oh wait, one more thing: do NOT push any religion on your kids. My first boss was a Born Again Christian, and his daughter ended up being a tramp and druggie. If they want to go to church/temple/mosque/whatever - let them, but don't push religion or morals on them. Educate them for sure, but don't force it. Forcing anything only encourages rebellion.
Just suggestions from experiences from my own life. I'm not preaching here. Take it as you will.
nagerous wrote:AtomicSlug wrote:Kids are gonna do what they want. In fact, the more you tell them NOT to do something, in their teens they will do the opposite, just to defy you as a parent.
Ask them not to drive if they get drunk and not to get into a car with someone else that is driving drunk. Offer to pick them up from the party. And lastly, set and enforce a house rule: no alcohol or drugs allowed in the house.
Oh wait, one more thing: do NOT push any religion on your kids. My first boss was a Born Again Christian, and his daughter ended up being a tramp and druggie. If they want to go to church/temple/mosque/whatever - let them, but don't push religion or morals on them. Educate them for sure, but don't force it. Forcing anything only encourages rebellion.
Just suggestions from experiences from my own life. I'm not preaching here. Take it as you will.
I'm afraid I am going to have to disagree profoundly with a couple of your thoughts (and agree with a couple of your latter ones). Not trying to be antagonistic but if you're going to have a relationship where there is no trust with your children then this will only lead to later problems. We've always had alcohol in the house and I regularly drink with my parents at dinner time on weekends and friday nights (when I had school) for the last couple of years when I am only 18. They have always trusted me and let me do what I like. I have had no adverse affects from this as I have managed to get myself 2 As and 2 Bs at A levels, which is really good and am well in health. If they had been less lax, it would have encouraged me to rebel more and my relationship with my parents may have been more damaged. However, I do to a certain extent that religion should never be forced on children. Unfortunately we live in a society where parents are going to exert their authority on their children, forcing them to live a certain way and even possibly disowning them if they don't follow their ways, which is saddening.
nagerous wrote:AtomicSlug wrote:Kids are gonna do what they want. In fact, the more you tell them NOT to do something, in their teens they will do the opposite, just to defy you as a parent.
Ask them not to drive if they get drunk and not to get into a car with someone else that is driving drunk. Offer to pick them up from the party. And lastly, set and enforce a house rule: no alcohol or drugs allowed in the house.
Oh wait, one more thing: do NOT push any religion on your kids. My first boss was a Born Again Christian, and his daughter ended up being a tramp and druggie. If they want to go to church/temple/mosque/whatever - let them, but don't push religion or morals on them. Educate them for sure, but don't force it. Forcing anything only encourages rebellion.
Just suggestions from experiences from my own life. I'm not preaching here. Take it as you will.
I'm afraid I am going to have to disagree profoundly with a couple of your thoughts (and agree with a couple of your latter ones). Not trying to be antagonistic but if you're going to have a relationship where there is no trust with your children then this will only lead to later problems. We've always had alcohol in the house and I regularly drink with my parents at dinner time on weekends and friday nights (when I had school) for the last couple of years when I am only 18. They have always trusted me and let me do what I like. I have had no adverse affects from this as I have managed to get myself 2 As and 2 Bs at A levels, which is really good and am well in health. If they had been less lax, it would have encouraged me to rebel more and my relationship with my parents may have been more damaged. However, I do to a certain extent that religion should never be forced on children. Unfortunately we live in a society where parents are going to exert their authority on their children, forcing them to live a certain way and even possibly disowning them if they don't follow their ways, which is saddening.
cawck mongler wrote:Your only option is to quit and become an anti-American Nazi that plays risk.
Kaplowitz wrote:static_ice wrote:this kid on my tennis team was 18 and his parents let him drink and store his own beer in his fridge... when the coach came this one time his parents took out his beer and served it to the coach!
lol, i wonder if my parents will give me beer if i make the school tennis team!
AtomicSlug wrote:nagerous wrote:AtomicSlug wrote:Kids are gonna do what they want. In fact, the more you tell them NOT to do something, in their teens they will do the opposite, just to defy you as a parent.
Ask them not to drive if they get drunk and not to get into a car with someone else that is driving drunk. Offer to pick them up from the party. And lastly, set and enforce a house rule: no alcohol or drugs allowed in the house.
Oh wait, one more thing: do NOT push any religion on your kids. My first boss was a Born Again Christian, and his daughter ended up being a tramp and druggie. If they want to go to church/temple/mosque/whatever - let them, but don't push religion or morals on them. Educate them for sure, but don't force it. Forcing anything only encourages rebellion.
Just suggestions from experiences from my own life. I'm not preaching here. Take it as you will.
I'm afraid I am going to have to disagree profoundly with a couple of your thoughts (and agree with a couple of your latter ones). Not trying to be antagonistic but if you're going to have a relationship where there is no trust with your children then this will only lead to later problems. We've always had alcohol in the house and I regularly drink with my parents at dinner time on weekends and friday nights (when I had school) for the last couple of years when I am only 18. They have always trusted me and let me do what I like. I have had no adverse affects from this as I have managed to get myself 2 As and 2 Bs at A levels, which is really good and am well in health. If they had been less lax, it would have encouraged me to rebel more and my relationship with my parents may have been more damaged. However, I do to a certain extent that religion should never be forced on children. Unfortunately we live in a society where parents are going to exert their authority on their children, forcing them to live a certain way and even possibly disowning them if they don't follow their ways, which is saddening.
I think it really depends on the family dynamics. My father was an abusive alcoholic and left when I was around 10. My mom told us not to smoke, as she light up a cigarrette. She told us not to drink, but had a nice stash of Whiskey (JD) and Vodka in a cupboard. We used to take some whiskey and then water it down because she kept a line on the bottle, but this always failed because she could always tell if it was watered down. So in my case it was a single parent raising 5 unruly kids.
We used to sneak in vodka, and then go upstairs to my room to mix it with the massive amounts of kool-aid that we kept coming downstairs for and play games like monopoly and shit. She had no idea. (and the only video game at that time was "Pong", so that can give u an idea about how ancient I am lol)
So basically, she would say shit like "Do as I say, not as I do", and sorry, but that shit just didn't fly.
But every family is different, and it helps a lot if both parents are there and the number of children are only a couple. Trying to keep track of 5+ kids is very difficult for any parent(s). We broke the rules just to defy her.
cawck mongler wrote:Your only option is to quit and become an anti-American Nazi that plays risk.
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