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mrswdk wrote:Dukasaur wrote:mrswdk wrote:If he refers to someone as 'she' and they reply 'I prefer 'he'' then he could just say 'okay then, he' without having any kind of debate whatsoever. If he decides to turn it into a big song and dance about how it's his right to call them whatever he wants then he is the one being difficult, not them.
I don't think he's refused to call anyone 'he' or 'she' as they wish. It's these trendy new pronouns like 'zhe' and 'zir' that he's refusing to use.
I fail to believe that being called 'zir' is something that is important to many people.
mrswdk wrote:Like, how often in your daily life do you hear or read someone referring to you as 'he'? It's fair enough to say that we ought to use genderless pronouns instead of gendered ones - because there is no need to distinguish between whether or not someone is male or female when speaking about them - but the only people making a huge fuss about it (on either side of the argument) are people who want to make a ruckus for the sake of hearing themselves speak.
The guy in OP is a university professor so he will be used to dealing with angry students looking for a cause to latch on to, and knows that the best course of action is to just smile and say 'yes'. The only reason he's making this big public stand about it is to sell his book, and he has succeeded.
These are the Symmetrys of the real world
mrswdk wrote:In terms of picking your battles, I think picking the ‘I want to call you ‘he’’ battle is one of the ones that’s definitely worth giving a miss. And he probably would, if he didn’t have books and speaking tours to generate publicity for.These are the Symmetrys of the real world
We all know at least one *sigh*