First of all, I am sorry for your loss. Death of anyone so close is very sad and difficult on the family and on you.
Second, this thread is an odd place to discuss such matters. Anyways,......
Apply the Pareto effect: 80% of the money spent on the health care of most (perhaps 80%) of the population is during the last 2 years of that person's life. So, yes, lots of money was spent to care for your mother-in-law as she approached death. That is not unusual.
I saw that happen with my father, when he passed away recently.
Note the following:
The Pareto principle (also known as the 80/20 rule, the law of the vital few, or the principle of factor sparsity)[1][2] states that, for many events, roughly 80% of the effects come from 20% of the causes.[3] Management consultant Joseph M. Juran suggested the principle and named it after Italian economist Vilfredo Pareto, who noted the 80/20 connection while at the University of Lausanne in 1896, as published in his first work, Cours d'économie politique. Essentially, Pareto showed that approximately 80% of the land in Italy was owned by 20% of the population.
jonesthecurl wrote:jonesthecurl wrote:Mrs thecurl is with her now, the old dear is now only receiving morphine, it's a matter of hours.
I feel guilty for thinking that (a) this will stop a huge drain on our finances, and (b) the Mrs will be home more often. But those things are both true.
It also means that the last reason for me to return to the UK several times a year will be gone. I'm not sure how I feel about that.
So the old dear is finally gone - she became completely unaware of her surroundings sometime yesterday, and slipped away this morning. Mrs tc is making various arrangements right now, then has to return to Ghana to do the stuff she was supposed to be doing before this . The funeral will be in about 10 or 12 days time, so I'll be heading over to the Uk once again for (literally) morbid reasons.
We had arranged for the next generation to go visit in early May, it's sad that she didn't hang on until that.