How Do You Tell Your Wife She's Too Fat?

[daddy1gringo]

In my experience, most women, even ones who are nowhere near "fat" are convinced that they are. Consequently, you don't need to worry about telling her, just be patient and she will mention it to you. Then, after telling her that you love her just the way she is, tell her that because you want her to be happy, be healthy, and live to old age with you, you will help in any way you can (exercise/improve diet with her, pay for Jenny Craig or Jazzercise classes, buy her a knockout dress in the size she wants to get to etc.)

[comic boy]

Scotty just do what comes naturally to you , tell her a load of shit and ignore any responses you dont like

[Lootifer]

Scotty just do what comes naturally to you , tell her a load of shit and ignore any responses you dont like

Bahaha win

[Woodruff]

Scotty just do what comes naturally to you , tell her a load of shit and ignore any responses you dont like

TMMLOL

[notyou2]

Be sure to keep a lot of Twinkies in the house.

[Phatscotty]

netflix forks over knives, or fat, sick and nearly dead

If that doesnt do it, deal.

I actually have no idea what this means.

I had much the same reaction.
O - and Phatty, did you just wind this thread up and set it down, or will we hear your opinions?

[note to self: you appear to be asking PScot to give an opinion. This is a first - get a checkup from the neck up]

I asked for a friend. He frequents the forums daily, I gave him my opinions on which he said to everything "I tried that" and I said hell I bet we can get some creative answers if we tap the monkey business wit.

He would have asked himself, but they won't let him post because he has not played any games yet. In other words, he does not have "Maugena" powers

[Woodruff]

netflix forks over knives, or fat, sick and nearly dead

If that doesnt do it, deal.

I actually have no idea what this means.

I had much the same reaction.
O - and Phatty, did you just wind this thread up and set it down, or will we hear your opinions?

[note to self: you appear to be asking PScot to give an opinion. This is a first - get a checkup from the neck up]

I asked for a friend. He frequents the forums daily, I gave him my opinions on which he said to everything "I tried that" and I said hell I bet we can get some creative answers if we tap the monkey business wit.

He would have asked himself, but they won't let him post because he has not played any games yet. In other words, he does not have "Maugena" powers

What? I REALLY don't think that's a rule. If it were, all of barackattack's multis wouldn't have been running around posting right from the get-go.

[jimboston]

I need some ideas people!

HELP!

There is only one way....

Serve her divorce papers.

I see no other way of accomplishing this and then being happy later.

Yeah you can try to be sly... but unless your wife is a dufuss it won't work.

[jimboston]

In my experience, most women, even ones who are nowhere near "fat" are convinced that they are. Consequently, you don't need to worry about telling her, just be patient and she will mention it to you. Then, after telling her that you love her just the way she is, tell her that because you want her to be happy, be healthy, and live to old age with you, you will help in any way you can (exercise/improve diet with her, pay for Jenny Craig or Jazzercise classes, buy her a knockout dress in the size she wants to get to etc.)

So far this is the only reasonable advice.

[Woodruff]

I need some ideas people!

HELP!

There is only one way....

Serve her divorce papers.

I see no other way of accomplishing this and then being happy later.

Yeah you can try to be sly... but unless your wife is a dufuss it won't work.

I still maintain that upfront, tactful and honest works.

[kentington]

I need some ideas people!

HELP!

There is only one way....

Serve her divorce papers.

I see no other way of accomplishing this and then being happy later.

Yeah you can try to be sly... but unless your wife is a dufuss it won't work.

I still maintain that upfront, tactful and honest works.

I think that if she is female and she is fat, then she already knows it. All girls are concerned about it.

The question is how do you let her know you know that she knows?

[Woodruff]

I need some ideas people!

HELP!

There is only one way....

Serve her divorce papers.

I see no other way of accomplishing this and then being happy later.

Yeah you can try to be sly... but unless your wife is a dufuss it won't work.

I still maintain that upfront, tactful and honest works.

I think that if she is female and she is fat, then she already knows it. All girls are concerned about it.

The question is how do you let her know you know that she knows?

The tactics and paranoia are strong in this one!

[kentington]

I need some ideas people!

HELP!

There is only one way....

Serve her divorce papers.

I see no other way of accomplishing this and then being happy later.

Yeah you can try to be sly... but unless your wife is a dufuss it won't work.

I still maintain that upfront, tactful and honest works.

I think that if she is female and she is fat, then she already knows it. All girls are concerned about it.

The question is how do you let her know you know that she knows?

The tactics and paranoia are strong in this one!

Honest question: How can you be tactful about this situation?

[Woodruff]

I need some ideas people!

HELP!

There is only one way....

Serve her divorce papers.

I see no other way of accomplishing this and then being happy later.

Yeah you can try to be sly... but unless your wife is a dufuss it won't work.

I still maintain that upfront, tactful and honest works.

I think that if she is female and she is fat, then she already knows it. All girls are concerned about it.

The question is how do you let her know you know that she knows?

The tactics and paranoia are strong in this one!

Honest question: How can you be tactful about this situation?

By not saying "Honey, you're really gettin' fat.".

[yang guize]

this one is simple. you say 'you are too fat. lose some weight'. or chase her around the streets with a hot poker. that will make her exercise.

easy

[PLAYER57832]

I need some ideas people!

HELP!

Don't.

If she really is overweight, her doctor should tell her. If you do anything, talk about yourself, but only if you are actually overweight..and health, not weight. "my doctor wants me to.."

Instead compliment her on her good qualities, try to engage her with you in activities you both enjoy. Don't give her a gym membership unless she really enjoys it/has mentioned wanting to do it..and if you do, absolutely don't tie it to weight, tie it too "you mentioned wanting..." or (if true) "your friend told me she loves this class..."

Beyond that, help around the house, because if the surroundings look better, chances are she will feel better. And, if she takes the initiative and decides to lose weight, don't fall into the trap of complimenting her too much on minor weight loss. Instead, say things like "I like you no matter what, but I am glad you are feeling healthier" (and mean it!!)

[InkL0sed]

The percentage of people who lose more than about 10 pounds and keep it off is 0. 0 percent.

Don't bother.

[Phatscotty]

Yeah I heard that too. Once you are fat, you don't go back. I think there is less than a 10% chance to keep the weight off, and that's in the whatever percent chance you ever lose the weight in the first place.

[Woodruff]

The percentage of people who lose more than about 10 pounds and keep it off is 0. 0 percent.

Don't bother.

My wife lost 82 pounds via WeightWatchers four years ago. She's still within 3 pounds of that lost weight point.

[kentington]

The percentage of people who lose more than about 10 pounds and keep it off is 0. 0 percent.

Don't bother.

My wife lost 82 pounds via WeightWatchers four years ago. She's still within 3 pounds of that lost weight point.

She is definitely in a minority. Food addiction is like a drug. People will most likely go back to it in stressful situations.
Your wife has a lot of will power and likely actually changed her lifestyle. Most people want the magic pill and don't want to change their lifestyle.

Maybe there is an underlying problem with your friends wife that may actually be dealt with before weight loss. I don't know the situation though which is why we give comical advice. Also, tell your friend to play a game and lose or whatever if he wants to post. If he doesn't show up here he may not say anything to his wife anyway.

[Woodruff]

Your wife has a lot of will power and likely actually changed her lifestyle. Most people want the magic pill and don't want to change their lifestyle.

This is precisely the key, yes. She changed her lifestyle. In fact, that's exactly what WeightWatchers is all about.

Maybe there is an underlying problem with your friends wife that may actually be dealt with before weight loss. I don't know the situation though which is why we give comical advice. Also, tell your friend to play a game and lose or whatever if he wants to post. If he doesn't show up here he may not say anything to his wife anyway.

Not my friend...

[InkL0sed]

The percentage of people who lose more than about 10 pounds and keep it off is 0. 0 percent.

Don't bother.

My wife lost 82 pounds via WeightWatchers four years ago. She's still within 3 pounds of that lost weight point.

Of course people do lose weight and keep it off for a while, but eventually virtually everybody gains most of it back. The science of weight loss isn't very inspiring. Your wife's body at her current weight is not like other people who are normally at that weight. Basically, at a lower weight than your normal, your body thinks it's starving, and will always think it's starving at that weight.

There is a very tiny minority of people who manage to keep the weight off, but only through constant vigilance about their diet and enormous willpower. That minority is so tiny that they're statistically insignificant.

The only real exception is that you can lose recently gained weight. That's because your body still thinks your previous weight is the "normal". They haven't done studies on how long a time it takes for your body to establish a new normal, but it's probably over a year.

http://fatfu.wordpress.com/2008/01/24/weight-watchers/
http://www.nytimes.com/2012/01/01/magaz ... wanted=all

[InkL0sed]

At that point, the 34 patients who remained stopped dieting and began working to maintain the new lower weight. Nutritionists counseled them in person and by phone, promoting regular exercise and urging them to eat more vegetables and less fat. But despite the effort, they slowly began to put on weight. After a year, the patients already had regained an average of 11 of the pounds they struggled so hard to lose. They also reported feeling far more hungry and preoccupied with food than before they lost the weight.

While researchers have known for decades that the body undergoes various metabolic and hormonal changes while it’s losing weight, the Australian team detected something new. A full year after significant weight loss, these men and women remained in what could be described as a biologically altered state. Their still-plump bodies were acting as if they were starving and were working overtime to regain the pounds they lost. For instance, a gastric hormone called ghrelin, often dubbed the “hunger hormone,” was about 20 percent higher than at the start of the study. Another hormone associated with suppressing hunger, peptide YY, was also abnormally low. Levels of leptin, a hormone that suppresses hunger and increases metabolism, also remained lower than expected. A cocktail of other hormones associated with hunger and metabolism all remained significantly changed compared to pre-dieting levels. It was almost as if weight loss had put their bodies into a unique metabolic state, a sort of post-dieting syndrome that set them apart from people who hadn’t tried to lose weight in the first place.

[Woodruff]

The percentage of people who lose more than about 10 pounds and keep it off is 0. 0 percent.

Don't bother.

My wife lost 82 pounds via WeightWatchers four years ago. She's still within 3 pounds of that lost weight point.

Of course people do lose weight and keep it off for a while, but eventually virtually everybody gains most of it back. The science of weight loss isn't very inspiring. Your wife's body at her current weight is not like other people who are normally at that weight. Basically, at a lower weight than your normal, your body thinks it's starving, and will always think it's starving at that weight.

There is a very tiny minority of people who manage to keep the weight off, but only through constant vigilance about their diet and enormous willpower. That minority is so tiny that they're statistically insignificant.

What you say is true, but that's why vigilance about their diet (i.e. "what WeightWatchers is all about) is important.

Meanwhile, I was on WeightWatchers for two months and said "f*ck it" because I have zero willpower when it comes to food (but I'm not even overweight by military standards, just got a bit of "table muscle" as my father used to call it).

[yang guize]

surely you have already identified the problem? these people make a lot of effort to lose weight, then as soon as they have lost weight they go back to their bad habits from before and the weight goes back.

it's not difficult to be thin. just don't sprinkle sugar on every bowl of rice because you think it's boring without.